Inspired by Gretchen Rubin’s “The Happiness Project” and The Art of Manliness’ “30 Days to a Better Man“
Starting May 1st, I am starting Month 1 of my “Becoming a Better Woman” project! I am extremely excited to start working on this year-long project. My hope is that I can learn to overcome my challenges and strengthen my own character and relationships this year.
I am posting the 30 day itinerary on this post so that anyone else who would like to do this with me can start on day 1 no matter what day of the month it is, and so each of my subsequent posts about each day can be found.
“The goal of this project is simple: to encourage women to be better women in all areas of their lives. I’m sure all of us have made goals to improve ourselves. But often our goals become one of those well-meaning intentions that we plan to do…. some day. And if you’re like me, some day never comes, and you’re stuck in the same place of mediocrity you were before.” -The Art of Manliness
It’s always nice to start off with a directive, something concrete and written down so that you can get yourself in the habit of consciously accomplishing goals. That is what Month 1 of the “Better Woman” project is all about! So here is how it works: There is a specific task to accomplish each day of a 30 day series. Each task is geared toward introspection and action- to think about who you are as a woman and then to act upon what you discover! As I post each day, I will add a link to the list below so that you can easily reach the details of the daily project.
** If you are doing the 12 month “Becoming a Better Woman” project with me, then Month 1 also includes the goal of exercising daily and clean eating! **
And so here it is my lovely ladies:
The 30 Day Challenge to Becoming a Better Woman:
Day 1: Define your core values
Day 2: Get your diamond ring polished (or an important piece of gold or silver that needs it!)
Day 3: Research a womanly topic
Day 4: Increase your endorphins
Day 5: Cultivate your gratitude
Day 6: Start a Journal
Day 7: Update your resume
Day 8: Reconnect with an old friend
Day 9: Take a man on a date
Day 10: Find your VULVA (Values Unaltered by Life’s Varying Adjustments)
Day 11: Memorize a poem
Day 12: Give yourself a breast exam
Day 13: Create/Revise your bucket list
Day 14: Declutter your life
Day 15: Write a letter to your Mother
Day 16: Make a meal
Day 17: Create a budget
Day 18: Start a debt reduction plan
Day 19: Talk to 3 strangers
Day 20: Schedule a physical exam
Day 21: Perform an act of service
Day 22: Write your own eulogy
Day 23: Improve your posture
Day 24: Learn a Manual Skill
Day 25: PLAY!
Day 26: Take the Army Physical Training test
Day 27: Start a book
Day 28: Write a love letter
Day 29: Conquer a fear
Day 30: Have an “old-fashioned” girl’s night out
There it is my girls. I am excited to see what happens within myself as I make the habit of accomplishing little things each day, but most of all, I can’t wait to hear about what each of you experience! We are all different and are in different phases of life and I really believe that we can glean new perspectives from each other. Please post your experiences, questions, comments… whatever on the appropriate post of the day. I can’t wait to learn from each of you!
As I have been thinking about this over the last few weeks I have found myself growing in gratitude for being a woman. And more, I have found myself desiring to seek after “womanliness”. I think womanliness is different from the concept of femininity. Femininity brings to mind the characteristics that are generally associated with being a woman, such as softness and tenderness. However, femininity is a human characteristic. Men can be feminine. Womanliness on the other hand conjures a greater picture, which may include femininity. Womanliness includes characteristics that are needed to perform beautifully as a woman in society, a mother, a daughter, a wife, a grandmother. Each of these is separate from another and each has specific types of characteristics that make them unique. The characteristics required to be a wife are different from the ones needed to be a great sister (there may be some overlap of course). But the concept itself says that womanliness is a deep concept that needs to be developed and honed, like a block of clay or a blank canvas. For each of us to discover our inner womanliness we need to put in the work to become diverse, adaptable, educated, and ever seeking to become a better woman.
Let’s bring back the Art of Womanliness.